7 Tips to Make you sound SMARTER

                Habits that make you Sound SMARTER!


Very often, we make judgement on people based on how they speak, the way they say things and how they interact among other people.

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If you are one of those people who is conscious on how they are sounding like in front of new people, take a look at these 7 tips to help you sound smarter!  

But before I begin, Did you know that when someone speaks our brain goes directly into detective mode? It pieces together information such as education, intelligence and wealth and all this help us sound smarter than we actually are!

Back to the tips here are the following:

1. Work on Posture

Standing in a good position or simply sitting straight with a relaxed spine and not in a rigid posture, presents a self-assured image of yourself & Also puts you in a more confident state for speaking

2. Avoid Mindless Language 

Speaking in buzzwords, cliches or trying to impress people by using 'difficult' words without a correct sense of meaning, portrays a lack of original thoughts.

3. Speak Loudly but not Forcefully

Projecting your voice takes time and practice, but speaking loudly in a way that it reaches to people at the far end of the room is a great tip for Sounding SMARTER! It is  very IMPORTANT not to shout as it ruins this image and puts your listeners on the edge. 

4. Pay Close Attention to your Voice

By listen closely to your voice, you can use it as your weapon of force. Think about the voice that makes you... the force that you use, the ease of sounding confident at what you are saying to make it even more convincing to your fellow listeners

5. Avoid 'Vocal Fry' and any other Vocal Irritants

People are assessed primarily on how they sound. Any annoying vocal habits affect negatively on how a person is perceived. There are mainly 2 irritants - the uptalk - where statements are perceived as questions due to high rising intonation and the vocal fry - where one end words in a raspy growl. Both convey insecurity about oneself and negativity.

6. Don't be afraid of SILENCE

Sometimes when someone talks, it is easy to notice the silence that follows that most probably leads to embarrassment for the speaker but as Harold Pinter observed, "one way of looking at speech is to say that it is a constant stratagem to cover nakedness." Hence, pausing for a few seconds, emphasizes and adds thoughtfulness to your speech.

7. Don't Weigh in UNLESS You have something to ADD

If you are speaking about a certain topic that you only have basic knowledge of, then do not EVER EVER wander into a deep discussion as it will only result into you being portrayed as an ignorant person. If you find yourself into a similar situation, just try to steer the conversation into a familiar ground where you can speak at ease and share your knowledge!

To conclude, even though most of us cannot change our voices outright, we can change our habits to reach a sense of eloquence which in return transforms you into an intelligent, engaging speaker in the eyes of those in front of you! 

In this sense, its NOT about WHAT you say but its all about HOW YOU SAY IT!

5 Things that will happen if you stay with the same person for a long time

Staying with the same person for a long time?!

Already in a long term relationship? Or are you in the beginning of a serious one? Do you think you found the love of your life and your ONE?!

Well listen up!  

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According to science, those couples who stay together for a long time literally change about the way how they see the world and in other words, one can even say that long-term couples can end up sharing a shared mind. Time even changes each individual. You might tell me how is this even possible?! But psychologists have come up with 5 things that distinguish a long-term couple from a couple that have just started dating:

• You develop a private language with your partner

Ever received a message from your loved one that in your opinion doesn't even make sense but at the same time it still means to you? This is one of the very first signs that you are both operating in sync.

This communication that is only shared between you and your other half actually helps you to deepen your bond with each other as well as establishing a unique identity between you too. This said is established from a study done by Professor Robert Hopper from University of Texas.

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This shared private language can vary from soppy messages to nicknames and inside jokes. Carol Bruess, a psychologist from Ohio State University, found a link between how much partners are satisfied in a relationship to how much private words they use between them. She found out that the more of the private language that they share, the more happier they tend to be! 

• You start to LOOK ALIKE!

Have you ever thought that you might be mirroring your other half? Yes its true and its even proven! According to Robert Zajonc in his 1987 study, found that married couples use the same muscles so frequently that literally start to copy each other. This is explained in other words as shared structure, from how we gaze, how our body sways and the little movements and words of how we speak!

• You start to EVEN SOUND alike!

Joshua Wolf Shenk, author of 'Powers of Two', confirms in his book that indeed, long-term couples tend to match each other "in the basic rhythms" and "structures of their speech". It is found that when people spend a long time with each other, they mimic each other in every sense from the amount of pauses one does between words to mimicking the other person's accent. 

In a study that was conducted in 2010, it was found that couples who 'sounded' more alike when texting to each other, were still dating three months later.

• You stop SELF-CENSORING

When a couple are alone together it is noted that they speak differently than if they were with other people or friends. This is because when we are infront of other people, we self-monitor ourselves by adapting our behaviours to suit the people surrounding us.

But when couples have been dating for a long time, this sort of barrier falls and instead people talk normally and fluidly without the need of self-monitoring themselves!

• You have Inside Jokes that anyone else think that they are not even FUNNY!

As much as you may find it hard to believe, research suggest that couples tend to even mirror body language of each other. 

A study that was conducted in 2007 found that couples tended to copy the same eye movements as well as copy each other's gaze when they heard the exact same background information before their conversation.

& So Basically this is it. What do you think? Did it ever happen to you? Do you know of any other facts that you think that long-term couples do? 

Leave a comment below!

C.Armeni

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