How to Let Go of someone You LOVED with all your heart....?

         6 Ways to Let Go of Someone you Loved

Love is Amazing. Love can Ruin and Destroy You Completely. Love Heals. Love can make you whole again. Love is Hell. Love will Kill You.

Do these phrases sound a bit familiar? These are all different opinions on how one interprets love based on his/her own experiences. Most of us have all experienced a heartbreak in their lifetime. And ALL of us can relate how a bad experience in life (let alone in LOVE!) can scar us forever.

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I myself, when I was young, I passed through a very bad heartbreak that scarred me for life. He was my first love and believe me when I tell you I trusted him with my heart till he tore it in pieces. Everything seemed great at first until you start to see a change. Change is all it takes to ruin everything. It took me 4 WHOLE years to push myself to truly let go and when I thought It was completely impossible, looking back, I realise how possible it really was!


However its true that it sucks letting go of the person you dreamed of building your life with...all the future plans and dreams going with the wind...BUT I assure you that YES someone better will come along! 

Here are 6 ways to help you move on with your life:

1. Take all the TIME you need for yourself

They say Time heals all wounds? BS***!! Its true that by time most of the wounds will heal..but some of them will live with you forever.

From all this and all that I passed through, I suggest you give time, TIME. Time to slowly start healing you from the inside, time to numb the pain, time to slowly turn those memories into blurry images, time to slowly help you regain your confidence and self-esteem....JUST TIME.

TRUST ME...it gets easier :)!

2. List the reasons why you had to part ways

Have you ever really sat down and wrote the reasons why you and MR/MS X really ended up going to two separate ways? 

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Unfortunately the way it happens is when you start to think of them initially you will transport yourself back in time where it was all about love and passion which is very dangerous as you are trying to FORGET the person. But to every problem there is a solution so whenever you find yourself drifting to those feelings just counter them with a negative thought or memory. That way you will have more control on your mind!  

Eventually you will find it difficult to hate him/her but always reminding yourself of the reasons you called it quits will surely make your life easier!

3. Meet Someone NEW

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No, don't let your mind wander too far! I'm not telling you jump at the first opportunity to go out with someone as I am DEFINITELY SURE that they will be a rebound to you as it happened in my case. 

But letting yourself fall in love with bits and pieces of characters and personalities of people is one of the process of recovery.

When we see someone that attracts us - we fall in love in the most shallow form of love - the kind of love that you only have very few information of the person, but come to think of it..if you are already capable of doing this, then remind yourself that you are capable of loving again! 

4. Let yourself know why you completely NEED to let go of this person

As everything else, there are cases where broken relationships can be rekindled together, then again deep in your gut you know when its really over. And when its really OVER you need to realise that it MUST remain over as even if you try and save it, it will end the same way it ended up in the first place!!

Also its important to remain focused as if you let yourself go, the past, memories and feelings will catch up with you and you will end up doing something you will regret in the future!

5. Imagine your IDEAL person, and point out which areas your Mr/Ms. X fell short.

Try to answer this question to yourself... How can you find the ideal person when you do not even know what you really want? 

So I suggest that you sit down, imagine the person that you would likely like to meet and have a future with and start writing these points. Eventually then move on to outline the areas which your Mr/Ms X failed, so that you will have a clear idea of what you really want. From this, you will set yourself some guidelines for future suitors and help you face love from a new perspective!

6. Find Your ONE!

Sometimes when you experience heartbreak, you make a vow to yourself that you will NEVER fall in love again. But if there wasn't some hope within you then I can assure you that you wouldn't be reading these steps! 

But I PROMISE you that when you find your one, your past love will become so blurry that you will eventually move on from him/her in a way that they won't affect you anymore and are merely a thought in your mind.

You will NEVER forget your first love, but this new person will fill each and every space that the old person let out until every bit that related to your old love will diminish entirely. Yes, you may think sometimes about them especially if they were your first love but you won't be yearning for them as you did before.

In my opinion, we never stop loving them.. we only just learn to live without them in our lives. But as long as the yearning goes, the pain subsides and there is someone who fills your world completely with love and respect, what else could we need more?! :)

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Fall Asleep in LESS than 3 Minutes!

                                          Problems in Sleeping?

Do you suffer from insomnia? Or do you find it difficult to fall alseep? No worries!! Sometimes, even I find it difficult to drowse off to Dreamland after a long hectic day at work.

In fact, I frequently find myself wondering and pondering what is the reason that I cannot seem to bring myself to sleep and I might HAVE FOUND a solution! 

I am now using the '4-7-8' method. Sounds strange to you? TRY IT OUT and see if it works for you like its working for me!!

First thing you should do before you use this method is to try NOT TRYING. You might say what is the catch in this? Its pretty simple. Instead of trying to put yourself to sleep, try instead the other way - TRY NOT TO FALL ASLEEP! Try staying with your eyes wide open and not moving at all (YES, you can blink!) And this way you may find that after a certain time, you will start falling asleep much earlier than you used to try and fall asleep before! You can watch a video explaining this here.

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Now for the '4-7-8' Method....

What you need to do is pretty EASY:

• Breathe calmly as much as possible through your nose for 4 seconds
• Hold your breath for 7 seconds
• Breathe through your mouth slowly for 8 seconds

Sounds Simple huh?!

You may think that I am joking but try it out and see for yourselves!! Last night, I wasn't even able to finish off the last step before I was snoring my head off!!

Want to know how it works?

Simple Physiology! When you are stressed out or anxious (Especially when the day after you might have an important exam or an interview), the adrenaline in your body increases which in return leads to faster breathing and your heart starts beating faster too. When you are breathing calmly - you are forcing the rhythm of your heart to slow down too - making you feel calmer instantly.

It calms down your mind! Without your knowing, you are concentrating entirely on your breathing. When your central nervous systems slows down any gradual activity, any anxiety that you might have will disappear. 

It's pretty HARMLESS! When performing this exercise, you are relaxing your whole body and you achieve a complete state of relaxation. The speed that it works can be compared to an anesthetic as it acts so fast that you find yourself dreaming in minutes!

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Would love your opinions and if it works for you or not! Any comments will be greatly appreciate too!

C.Armeni

GET what you want from LIFE

                             

Easy Ways to Get what You want from Life

  

Everyone of us desire an easy life. Who would enjoy going to work when you can easily sit at home relaxing by the pool with a cocktail in your hands? I guess many of us can relate to this.

Ever wondered how your life would change if you actually become the winner of a powerball lottery? How your life problems would be solved instantly? But some might disagree, supporting the fact that now you would be the next potential 'target' for thieves and gold diggers. Some might even say that winning the lottery is an unfortunate event as many people will end up broke more than they were originally due to excessive spending on detrimental factors such as drugs, gambling and some end up spending thousands on security personnel for their close relatives. It all depends how you look at the situation... And how much are you ready to act upon it. 

Did you ever notice that sometimes some of our 'Dreams' do actually come true? Why some of them do come true more than others?  

One of the most important thing to keep in mind is that to get what you really want is to sit down and realise how much you really want that specific goal to happen and what are you going to do about that. 

Some of these goals are actual problems that leave our minds pondering at night on how to solve them. These will leave us asking ourselves why it didn't happen yet or what actually are we doing wrong.

NO there is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes we dont get what we want fast because we dont put much effort on what we are going to do about it but we focus on the negative part. For example:

If a person wants to live a debt free life but he/she spends the majority of time focusing on unpaid bills  instead of ways to generate more income, then that person is prolonging to attract fresh new ideas.

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So what can we do about that? Find below some tips for your perusal:

• Determine what you want from Life and keep note

To get a clear insight of what you truly want from life, sit down and relax, clear your mind and focus on your intentions and jot them down

• Always progress in your goals

Remember a journey always starts with a single step! Each day work on your goal and take action whenever you can. Dont give up because you only see a small progress - your future self will thank you for that! That way your goal can be within reach... Then all that will be left is Time and Patience

• Imagine how your life will look like if you reach that Goal

Visualising your target and goal and replaying it in your mind over and over again will help you having a positive attitude in reaching that aim. This can even help you reach your target even faster as having a positive mind = more effort and pushing yourself to the limit 

• Don't be hard on yourself

You cannot do miracles. Everything will take time and sometimes we tend to give up if we do not see any progress. But hang on there, release your mind and don't focus much on expectations as these might lead to disappointments. On the other hand enjoy this journey as it will lead you to where you want to be.

• Have Faith in Faith

Not having your heart and mind set on what you truly want is not going to get you anywhere. Have faith that things will work out without rushing things. Remember everything happens for a reason - if something does not work out it does not mean that it will not happen.. it simply means that there is something better in store for you!

To get what you want...is to accept where you are...and where you want to go.

© C.Armeni

Thoughts...? Feelings....?

Thoughts and Feelings make One Ponder....

This is only a jumbled mixture of some thoughts that are running in my head at this present moment, currently 3:!5am in the morning.

I want to try and understand the meaning of LIFE. Do we live to die? OR do we die to live?

Then again what is love? Is it just a feeling? Or is it something that changes our perceptions, feelings and lives forever?

Love?

The one thing that can tear you to pieces and can never heal from the scars that one person you loved with all of your heart inflicted on you?.

Then some might contradict and say that love makes them feel wonderful again. True … if you have found the right one.

Else no matter how much you try, your mind, your heart, your feelings will all be directed to that one person…. That one person you gave your heart to... The one who made it whole.

And what do we say about feelings? Why cant we always be open about what we feel? Why do we have sometimes to bottle our feelings inside just not to hurt other people’s feelings? Or do we keep feelings to ourselves in fear of the answers others can give us if we do actually express them?

Senses? Well we all know that we have 5 senses…why cant we have a sixth sense? A sense that we could predict what is going to happen with the choices that we make? Its true choices do define us yes, but yet to what extent?

What I learnt up till now, is that sometimes, to keep moving on in life, you can only trust yourself and your feelings. Only you know what you truly feel, and no one can ever understand you fully as much as you can understand yourself.

Also, what about trust? How many times have we trusted people to get betrayed again? Why cant we ever learn?

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Yourself? The being inside one’s body…the ‘self’ that controls your body…your feelings, your choices, your mind, your soul...

What do you readers understand by all this? Does it actually make sense? 

What is your perception of your own live in general? Are you happy with your own life?


Goodnight,

C.Armeni.