How to Let Go of someone You LOVED with all your heart....?

         6 Ways to Let Go of Someone you Loved

Love is Amazing. Love can Ruin and Destroy You Completely. Love Heals. Love can make you whole again. Love is Hell. Love will Kill You.

Do these phrases sound a bit familiar? These are all different opinions on how one interprets love based on his/her own experiences. Most of us have all experienced a heartbreak in their lifetime. And ALL of us can relate how a bad experience in life (let alone in LOVE!) can scar us forever.

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I myself, when I was young, I passed through a very bad heartbreak that scarred me for life. He was my first love and believe me when I tell you I trusted him with my heart till he tore it in pieces. Everything seemed great at first until you start to see a change. Change is all it takes to ruin everything. It took me 4 WHOLE years to push myself to truly let go and when I thought It was completely impossible, looking back, I realise how possible it really was!


However its true that it sucks letting go of the person you dreamed of building your life with...all the future plans and dreams going with the wind...BUT I assure you that YES someone better will come along! 

Here are 6 ways to help you move on with your life:

1. Take all the TIME you need for yourself

They say Time heals all wounds? BS***!! Its true that by time most of the wounds will heal..but some of them will live with you forever.

From all this and all that I passed through, I suggest you give time, TIME. Time to slowly start healing you from the inside, time to numb the pain, time to slowly turn those memories into blurry images, time to slowly help you regain your confidence and self-esteem....JUST TIME.

TRUST ME...it gets easier :)!

2. List the reasons why you had to part ways

Have you ever really sat down and wrote the reasons why you and MR/MS X really ended up going to two separate ways? 

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Unfortunately the way it happens is when you start to think of them initially you will transport yourself back in time where it was all about love and passion which is very dangerous as you are trying to FORGET the person. But to every problem there is a solution so whenever you find yourself drifting to those feelings just counter them with a negative thought or memory. That way you will have more control on your mind!  

Eventually you will find it difficult to hate him/her but always reminding yourself of the reasons you called it quits will surely make your life easier!

3. Meet Someone NEW

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No, don't let your mind wander too far! I'm not telling you jump at the first opportunity to go out with someone as I am DEFINITELY SURE that they will be a rebound to you as it happened in my case. 

But letting yourself fall in love with bits and pieces of characters and personalities of people is one of the process of recovery.

When we see someone that attracts us - we fall in love in the most shallow form of love - the kind of love that you only have very few information of the person, but come to think of it..if you are already capable of doing this, then remind yourself that you are capable of loving again! 

4. Let yourself know why you completely NEED to let go of this person

As everything else, there are cases where broken relationships can be rekindled together, then again deep in your gut you know when its really over. And when its really OVER you need to realise that it MUST remain over as even if you try and save it, it will end the same way it ended up in the first place!!

Also its important to remain focused as if you let yourself go, the past, memories and feelings will catch up with you and you will end up doing something you will regret in the future!

5. Imagine your IDEAL person, and point out which areas your Mr/Ms. X fell short.

Try to answer this question to yourself... How can you find the ideal person when you do not even know what you really want? 

So I suggest that you sit down, imagine the person that you would likely like to meet and have a future with and start writing these points. Eventually then move on to outline the areas which your Mr/Ms X failed, so that you will have a clear idea of what you really want. From this, you will set yourself some guidelines for future suitors and help you face love from a new perspective!

6. Find Your ONE!

Sometimes when you experience heartbreak, you make a vow to yourself that you will NEVER fall in love again. But if there wasn't some hope within you then I can assure you that you wouldn't be reading these steps! 

But I PROMISE you that when you find your one, your past love will become so blurry that you will eventually move on from him/her in a way that they won't affect you anymore and are merely a thought in your mind.

You will NEVER forget your first love, but this new person will fill each and every space that the old person let out until every bit that related to your old love will diminish entirely. Yes, you may think sometimes about them especially if they were your first love but you won't be yearning for them as you did before.

In my opinion, we never stop loving them.. we only just learn to live without them in our lives. But as long as the yearning goes, the pain subsides and there is someone who fills your world completely with love and respect, what else could we need more?! :)

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