How to Let Go of someone You LOVED with all your heart....?

         6 Ways to Let Go of Someone you Loved

Love is Amazing. Love can Ruin and Destroy You Completely. Love Heals. Love can make you whole again. Love is Hell. Love will Kill You.

Do these phrases sound a bit familiar? These are all different opinions on how one interprets love based on his/her own experiences. Most of us have all experienced a heartbreak in their lifetime. And ALL of us can relate how a bad experience in life (let alone in LOVE!) can scar us forever.

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I myself, when I was young, I passed through a very bad heartbreak that scarred me for life. He was my first love and believe me when I tell you I trusted him with my heart till he tore it in pieces. Everything seemed great at first until you start to see a change. Change is all it takes to ruin everything. It took me 4 WHOLE years to push myself to truly let go and when I thought It was completely impossible, looking back, I realise how possible it really was!


However its true that it sucks letting go of the person you dreamed of building your life with...all the future plans and dreams going with the wind...BUT I assure you that YES someone better will come along! 

Here are 6 ways to help you move on with your life:

1. Take all the TIME you need for yourself

They say Time heals all wounds? BS***!! Its true that by time most of the wounds will heal..but some of them will live with you forever.

From all this and all that I passed through, I suggest you give time, TIME. Time to slowly start healing you from the inside, time to numb the pain, time to slowly turn those memories into blurry images, time to slowly help you regain your confidence and self-esteem....JUST TIME.

TRUST ME...it gets easier :)!

2. List the reasons why you had to part ways

Have you ever really sat down and wrote the reasons why you and MR/MS X really ended up going to two separate ways? 

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Unfortunately the way it happens is when you start to think of them initially you will transport yourself back in time where it was all about love and passion which is very dangerous as you are trying to FORGET the person. But to every problem there is a solution so whenever you find yourself drifting to those feelings just counter them with a negative thought or memory. That way you will have more control on your mind!  

Eventually you will find it difficult to hate him/her but always reminding yourself of the reasons you called it quits will surely make your life easier!

3. Meet Someone NEW

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No, don't let your mind wander too far! I'm not telling you jump at the first opportunity to go out with someone as I am DEFINITELY SURE that they will be a rebound to you as it happened in my case. 

But letting yourself fall in love with bits and pieces of characters and personalities of people is one of the process of recovery.

When we see someone that attracts us - we fall in love in the most shallow form of love - the kind of love that you only have very few information of the person, but come to think of it..if you are already capable of doing this, then remind yourself that you are capable of loving again! 

4. Let yourself know why you completely NEED to let go of this person

As everything else, there are cases where broken relationships can be rekindled together, then again deep in your gut you know when its really over. And when its really OVER you need to realise that it MUST remain over as even if you try and save it, it will end the same way it ended up in the first place!!

Also its important to remain focused as if you let yourself go, the past, memories and feelings will catch up with you and you will end up doing something you will regret in the future!

5. Imagine your IDEAL person, and point out which areas your Mr/Ms. X fell short.

Try to answer this question to yourself... How can you find the ideal person when you do not even know what you really want? 

So I suggest that you sit down, imagine the person that you would likely like to meet and have a future with and start writing these points. Eventually then move on to outline the areas which your Mr/Ms X failed, so that you will have a clear idea of what you really want. From this, you will set yourself some guidelines for future suitors and help you face love from a new perspective!

6. Find Your ONE!

Sometimes when you experience heartbreak, you make a vow to yourself that you will NEVER fall in love again. But if there wasn't some hope within you then I can assure you that you wouldn't be reading these steps! 

But I PROMISE you that when you find your one, your past love will become so blurry that you will eventually move on from him/her in a way that they won't affect you anymore and are merely a thought in your mind.

You will NEVER forget your first love, but this new person will fill each and every space that the old person let out until every bit that related to your old love will diminish entirely. Yes, you may think sometimes about them especially if they were your first love but you won't be yearning for them as you did before.

In my opinion, we never stop loving them.. we only just learn to live without them in our lives. But as long as the yearning goes, the pain subsides and there is someone who fills your world completely with love and respect, what else could we need more?! :)

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Does Your Girlfriend do any of these 7 things?!

                   
                    Is Your Girlfriend a "Wifey Material?"

Hello everyone :)! Today I am going to give the guys a boost up in trying to understand women which I hope it will prove to be helpful to you.

Let me start by asking you a question. How do you know that you have found the right person for you? Some people tend to say that because they feel it..but is it true? 

How do you know when its time to stop looking for other girls because you have just got a girl that cannot be replaced? How do you know that you are certain that you can commit to her?

As a female myself, I am going to give you 7 tips about girls that in our society today are considered as "wifey material" traits. IF your girlfriend does any of these things, HOLD on to her! IF she does most of them...consider yourself LUCKY!

Here they are:

1. IF she shares your Sense of Humor, DONT let her go!

I, myself as a female think that having someone who can make you laugh is a great bonus! On the other hand, I know how much girls can be moody, so if you tell a joke and see her looking at you like you are someone out of this world, I suggest you leave A.S.A.P!! 

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But if a girl shares your jokes and even adds to them!? YOU ARE Lucky Bro! Today, all I can say is that life is too short to spend it with someone who cannot make you laugh. 

2. You're Mad and she manages to calm you down?! WOW!

Yes, us girls have a temper too and sometimes it can be quite a short one too! But if you're mad and your girlfriend manages to calm you down, then there must be something special over there!

If we manage to calm you down (&& that is our aim when we see you all pissed up), its because we really do know you on a deeper level and even if you take this detail forgranted, be thankful that you do have a girlfriend who totally understands you and your pissed up temper!

3. Same Tastes in Movies or Music? Awesome!

Taking myself as an example, I prefer a cosy night in watching movies rather than clubbing out and drinking the night away! IT obviously depends on what your girlfriend prefers BUT if she prefers staying indoors, cuddled up next to you -then its already a good sign.
 

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Also it is important to remember that since you are together, most probably you will spend a lot of evenings watching movies rather than going out, and to have someone who likes the same type of movies as you is and added bonus to avoid silly fights!

4. She Respects Your Buddy Time with your Friends? A KEEPER INDEED!

Ever found yourself in a relationship where you had to sacrifice your friends? Or know someone whom you never saw again because of his/her other half? YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

But sometimes its not always their significant other's fault. Sometimes its their own too! BUT...... if you have someone who respects the time you spend with your buddies just because she truly values your friendship with your buddies, she is DEFINITELY a keeper!

5. She calls out on your B***S***? She Cares.

You might try to pretend that you hate this..but deep down you dont. There is nothing sexier than a girl who sticks up for you, to remind you what she truly fell for in the first place!

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A girl who simply lets you walk over her is a girl that you will get bored of easily as there wont be challenges that she will make you face to rise to your own potential BUT you will N.E.V.E.R get tired of the girl who keeps on pushing you to reach your dreams that you thought were impossible!






6. SHE trusts YOU Completely

Just because she trusted you with her heart does not mean that you can go and play with it and break it up into a million pieces.

Being a girl myself I can assure you that its not easy to trust a guy especially after you've been hurt more than once. So if a girl does give you her heart, HONOUR it. Honour the fact that it might took all that she's got just to give you the most vulnerable part that she has.

Trust on its own is a must in a relationship and even in our normal lives its a beautiful thing to share but if you completely trust your other half and vice-versa then its the most magical thing to have with the one you love!

7. She truly BELIEVES in YOU

LOVE as everybody might know can either complete you or shatter you to pieces. Having said that, Love can be the most magical experience that you might experience in your life but not everyone is lucky to pass through the same.

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Why Men Leave Women?! :(

             
             4 Reasons Why Men Leave Women

Ever found yourself in a relationship where everything seemed to be going perfectly well until that doomed day comes when he tells you that you're both better off as friends and he leaves you there asking yourself what the heck has just happened? 

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Its true that nowadays I personally feel that the true value of relationships have literally decreased. People today just prefer to have that 'one' person who is more than friends but less than lovers in order to feel secure in not getting hurt from that relationship.

Sometimes when a good woman gets dumped by a man, she is left heartbroken asking herself 'WHY?' did it happen? and also 'WHAT?' did I do wrong? People will tell this good woman that she is indeed a good person but if it was true then WHY did he leave?

What one must realise is that sometimes its not all about the woman herself but it has to do everything with the guy himself! 

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So lets see these 4 reasons why Men leave a good woman:

1. He has immature views of this relationship

As I already told you, today people rather end a relationship then trying to fix it and this maybe one of the reasons that lead to a sudden break up. A guy sometimes does not realise that all relationships require hard work (but rewarding too!) in order to succeed.

2. FEAR of Commitment

Some men are SIMPLY NOT ready for commitment! Simply Put. He might really want her and really is interested in her but once things start getting serious, he just backs away! 

3. He thinks that he can get BETTER

This is not news. Every guys nearly pass from this stage in thinking what the hell is he doing with the same woman when he can get better and a variety of women? 

It might be a simple flirtatious text from another woman in a way that his woman hasn't flirted in a while. Attention does make a man feel good and if left unnoticed in some cases it might even leads to a secret affair!

4. He thinks that he is NOT GOOD enough

Sometimes its not because a man does not realise a woman's worth when he breaks up with her....its the other way round: HE DOES realise her worth and that is why he breaks up the whole relationship. It hurts both ways but when a man leaves a woman for this reason he is mainly implying that he doesn't trust her judgement when it comes to choosing partners (since she chose him) 

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What I can say from all this, is that leaving a good woman will make a person realise two things: He either realise by time that she truly was a good woman and that he might be missing on a great successful relationship (until not too late by that time) or else he realise that he has changed in a way that this relationship cannot just fit him!

From my own experience, passing through this situation in life, has made me realise that men,yes, they do realise when they leave a good woman! 

Do you all agree? Looking forward to any opinions!

C.Armeni

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5 Things that will happen if you stay with the same person for a long time

Staying with the same person for a long time?!

Already in a long term relationship? Or are you in the beginning of a serious one? Do you think you found the love of your life and your ONE?!

Well listen up!  

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According to science, those couples who stay together for a long time literally change about the way how they see the world and in other words, one can even say that long-term couples can end up sharing a shared mind. Time even changes each individual. You might tell me how is this even possible?! But psychologists have come up with 5 things that distinguish a long-term couple from a couple that have just started dating:

• You develop a private language with your partner

Ever received a message from your loved one that in your opinion doesn't even make sense but at the same time it still means to you? This is one of the very first signs that you are both operating in sync.

This communication that is only shared between you and your other half actually helps you to deepen your bond with each other as well as establishing a unique identity between you too. This said is established from a study done by Professor Robert Hopper from University of Texas.

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This shared private language can vary from soppy messages to nicknames and inside jokes. Carol Bruess, a psychologist from Ohio State University, found a link between how much partners are satisfied in a relationship to how much private words they use between them. She found out that the more of the private language that they share, the more happier they tend to be! 

• You start to LOOK ALIKE!

Have you ever thought that you might be mirroring your other half? Yes its true and its even proven! According to Robert Zajonc in his 1987 study, found that married couples use the same muscles so frequently that literally start to copy each other. This is explained in other words as shared structure, from how we gaze, how our body sways and the little movements and words of how we speak!

• You start to EVEN SOUND alike!

Joshua Wolf Shenk, author of 'Powers of Two', confirms in his book that indeed, long-term couples tend to match each other "in the basic rhythms" and "structures of their speech". It is found that when people spend a long time with each other, they mimic each other in every sense from the amount of pauses one does between words to mimicking the other person's accent. 

In a study that was conducted in 2010, it was found that couples who 'sounded' more alike when texting to each other, were still dating three months later.

• You stop SELF-CENSORING

When a couple are alone together it is noted that they speak differently than if they were with other people or friends. This is because when we are infront of other people, we self-monitor ourselves by adapting our behaviours to suit the people surrounding us.

But when couples have been dating for a long time, this sort of barrier falls and instead people talk normally and fluidly without the need of self-monitoring themselves!

• You have Inside Jokes that anyone else think that they are not even FUNNY!

As much as you may find it hard to believe, research suggest that couples tend to even mirror body language of each other. 

A study that was conducted in 2007 found that couples tended to copy the same eye movements as well as copy each other's gaze when they heard the exact same background information before their conversation.

& So Basically this is it. What do you think? Did it ever happen to you? Do you know of any other facts that you think that long-term couples do? 

Leave a comment below!

C.Armeni

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Do you know what a Heartbreak DOES to your Brain?!

                                         
   The Effects of a Heartbreak on your Brain!

Ever wondered how a heartbreak affects you?! I've been through a couple of them and believe me when I say that a heartbreak completely changes you. It changes your perspective on Life and LOVE, it changes your mentality

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about people.

You learn not to trust completely and you push away anyone who DARES to come close to you. You start hating love songs and curse every single couple that you pass by but deep down wishing you are instead of them. You curse that person that broke you, wishing that you can kill him with your own bare hands and you keep cursing his name until you end up with no voice. You hate him but at the same time you still love him and wish that nothing changed between you.

You spend sleepless nights or nights crying yourself to sleep. Those moments when you feel like your heart is exploding to pieces. Those moments when you gasp for breath as you feel like someone knocked you out completely. Those moments when you hear or see something that tears you apart even more. YES I Know how it feels!

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But actually, after all this, do you ever think how a heartbreak affects directly our brain? No, its not just you who feels that your life is over. Your brain is affected too! 

Everyone knows that losing the person you loved with your whole heart is absolutely devastating. Some of the effects are pretty understandable too! Take a look at what a heartbreak does to our brain below:

• Linked to a Higher rate of Depression

These Effects can last weeks, months and even YEARS!

• An area of our brain that deals with addiction and physical pain is ACTIVATED

That's right! Seeing a photo of your ex after a breakup, activates a part of the brain that is linked with physical pain and cocaine addiction. It can feel like drug withdrawal symptoms. No wonder heartbreaks are painful!!!

• Causes Anxiety, Headaches, and MORE!!

When you are in love, positive chemicals such as Dopamine and Oxytocin. On the other hand, heartbreak cause the following effects: Anxiety, Headaches, Nausea and there could be changes in weight - either weight loss or even weight gain in some cases.

• Can even cause the 'BROKEN HEART Syndrome'

The physical pain of it all doesn't stop here! It has been found that traumatic experiences can cause this syndrome. Stressful experiences like these make the body produce hormones which disrupts the heart's pumping ability.

• Cause Chest Pains and Symptoms of a HEART ATTACK!

Yes. A heartbreak may even cause you to feel the symptoms of a Heart attack!

To Sum it all up there is nothing more to add except the fact that love is like a drug to our body and experiencing a heartbreak is like experiencing Drug withdrawal. We must always keep in mind not to judge people as we may never know what they are passing through.

Have you ever experienced this? 

Laters,

C.Armeni

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Sorry!

                          

Hi everyone! How are you all doing?

This post is to tell you im Sorry for not being around these last two days! I have been really sick and its today that I can bear writing this post and standing the light in my eyes!

You see when a person is sick all perceptions about life and health changes! I can say I just experienced that... 3 days ago I was fine and all I had was a start of a small cough. Then I woke up on Saturday all dizzy and my cough worsened a lot during the night. During the day the pain in my head increased so much that I had no idea of what I was saying..or what was happening except that I just wanted to rip my head off.

To cut things short during my time resting at home I couldn't help but certain thoughts came up my mind. When we are all fine, we tend to take life for granted and maybe even take for granted the people around us.. But no one knows when its our last day here on Earth!

2 Days ago I was so much in pain that I thought I was going to die..and during that very moment I was like asking myself  questions like: "When did you last tell the people close to you that you love them?" "When was the last time you visited grandma?" "If You had to die, do you have any regrets?"

And that is what I am going to write about today. Sometimes we keep postponing not visiting our loved ones as we keep saying that they will be with us for another day... But in reality, what guarantee do we have that they will live till the next day?!

Ask yourself when was the last time that you visited your grandparents because you are too 'busy' with life? I myself do it because I am a really busy person but lets face it.. When will I visit my grandma? When she will not be with us anymore? No this is not the way of living! We should cherish our loved ones as if it is their last minute on Earth. In fact that is this year's resolution - to give more time to the people close to heart ... To my mother who raised me these last 23 years, to my grandma who is always ready to greet me with a smile, to my friends whom I dont see frequently as much as I like, to my loved ones to show them they are appreciated for being in my life and also to myself because only God knows when it was the last time that I truly gave some time for myself!

Is there someone that you haven't seen for so long? Or that you haven't talked in years? Go change this while you still have time on Earth. Be truly Yourself and hold your circle of friends, loved ones and family members close to your heart as they are the ones who will be there when the rest of the world bails out on you!

I hope I didnt bother you with my ranting but I just wanted to share with you my thoughts x

C.Armeni

Thoughts...? Feelings....?

Thoughts and Feelings make One Ponder....

This is only a jumbled mixture of some thoughts that are running in my head at this present moment, currently 3:!5am in the morning.

I want to try and understand the meaning of LIFE. Do we live to die? OR do we die to live?

Then again what is love? Is it just a feeling? Or is it something that changes our perceptions, feelings and lives forever?

Love?

The one thing that can tear you to pieces and can never heal from the scars that one person you loved with all of your heart inflicted on you?.

Then some might contradict and say that love makes them feel wonderful again. True … if you have found the right one.

Else no matter how much you try, your mind, your heart, your feelings will all be directed to that one person…. That one person you gave your heart to... The one who made it whole.

And what do we say about feelings? Why cant we always be open about what we feel? Why do we have sometimes to bottle our feelings inside just not to hurt other people’s feelings? Or do we keep feelings to ourselves in fear of the answers others can give us if we do actually express them?

Senses? Well we all know that we have 5 senses…why cant we have a sixth sense? A sense that we could predict what is going to happen with the choices that we make? Its true choices do define us yes, but yet to what extent?

What I learnt up till now, is that sometimes, to keep moving on in life, you can only trust yourself and your feelings. Only you know what you truly feel, and no one can ever understand you fully as much as you can understand yourself.

Also, what about trust? How many times have we trusted people to get betrayed again? Why cant we ever learn?

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Yourself? The being inside one’s body…the ‘self’ that controls your body…your feelings, your choices, your mind, your soul...

What do you readers understand by all this? Does it actually make sense? 

What is your perception of your own live in general? Are you happy with your own life?


Goodnight,

C.Armeni.