How to Let Go of someone You LOVED with all your heart....?

         6 Ways to Let Go of Someone you Loved

Love is Amazing. Love can Ruin and Destroy You Completely. Love Heals. Love can make you whole again. Love is Hell. Love will Kill You.

Do these phrases sound a bit familiar? These are all different opinions on how one interprets love based on his/her own experiences. Most of us have all experienced a heartbreak in their lifetime. And ALL of us can relate how a bad experience in life (let alone in LOVE!) can scar us forever.

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I myself, when I was young, I passed through a very bad heartbreak that scarred me for life. He was my first love and believe me when I tell you I trusted him with my heart till he tore it in pieces. Everything seemed great at first until you start to see a change. Change is all it takes to ruin everything. It took me 4 WHOLE years to push myself to truly let go and when I thought It was completely impossible, looking back, I realise how possible it really was!


However its true that it sucks letting go of the person you dreamed of building your life with...all the future plans and dreams going with the wind...BUT I assure you that YES someone better will come along! 

Here are 6 ways to help you move on with your life:

1. Take all the TIME you need for yourself

They say Time heals all wounds? BS***!! Its true that by time most of the wounds will heal..but some of them will live with you forever.

From all this and all that I passed through, I suggest you give time, TIME. Time to slowly start healing you from the inside, time to numb the pain, time to slowly turn those memories into blurry images, time to slowly help you regain your confidence and self-esteem....JUST TIME.

TRUST ME...it gets easier :)!

2. List the reasons why you had to part ways

Have you ever really sat down and wrote the reasons why you and MR/MS X really ended up going to two separate ways? 

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Unfortunately the way it happens is when you start to think of them initially you will transport yourself back in time where it was all about love and passion which is very dangerous as you are trying to FORGET the person. But to every problem there is a solution so whenever you find yourself drifting to those feelings just counter them with a negative thought or memory. That way you will have more control on your mind!  

Eventually you will find it difficult to hate him/her but always reminding yourself of the reasons you called it quits will surely make your life easier!

3. Meet Someone NEW

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No, don't let your mind wander too far! I'm not telling you jump at the first opportunity to go out with someone as I am DEFINITELY SURE that they will be a rebound to you as it happened in my case. 

But letting yourself fall in love with bits and pieces of characters and personalities of people is one of the process of recovery.

When we see someone that attracts us - we fall in love in the most shallow form of love - the kind of love that you only have very few information of the person, but come to think of it..if you are already capable of doing this, then remind yourself that you are capable of loving again! 

4. Let yourself know why you completely NEED to let go of this person

As everything else, there are cases where broken relationships can be rekindled together, then again deep in your gut you know when its really over. And when its really OVER you need to realise that it MUST remain over as even if you try and save it, it will end the same way it ended up in the first place!!

Also its important to remain focused as if you let yourself go, the past, memories and feelings will catch up with you and you will end up doing something you will regret in the future!

5. Imagine your IDEAL person, and point out which areas your Mr/Ms. X fell short.

Try to answer this question to yourself... How can you find the ideal person when you do not even know what you really want? 

So I suggest that you sit down, imagine the person that you would likely like to meet and have a future with and start writing these points. Eventually then move on to outline the areas which your Mr/Ms X failed, so that you will have a clear idea of what you really want. From this, you will set yourself some guidelines for future suitors and help you face love from a new perspective!

6. Find Your ONE!

Sometimes when you experience heartbreak, you make a vow to yourself that you will NEVER fall in love again. But if there wasn't some hope within you then I can assure you that you wouldn't be reading these steps! 

But I PROMISE you that when you find your one, your past love will become so blurry that you will eventually move on from him/her in a way that they won't affect you anymore and are merely a thought in your mind.

You will NEVER forget your first love, but this new person will fill each and every space that the old person let out until every bit that related to your old love will diminish entirely. Yes, you may think sometimes about them especially if they were your first love but you won't be yearning for them as you did before.

In my opinion, we never stop loving them.. we only just learn to live without them in our lives. But as long as the yearning goes, the pain subsides and there is someone who fills your world completely with love and respect, what else could we need more?! :)

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Why Men Leave Women?! :(

             
             4 Reasons Why Men Leave Women

Ever found yourself in a relationship where everything seemed to be going perfectly well until that doomed day comes when he tells you that you're both better off as friends and he leaves you there asking yourself what the heck has just happened? 

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Its true that nowadays I personally feel that the true value of relationships have literally decreased. People today just prefer to have that 'one' person who is more than friends but less than lovers in order to feel secure in not getting hurt from that relationship.

Sometimes when a good woman gets dumped by a man, she is left heartbroken asking herself 'WHY?' did it happen? and also 'WHAT?' did I do wrong? People will tell this good woman that she is indeed a good person but if it was true then WHY did he leave?

What one must realise is that sometimes its not all about the woman herself but it has to do everything with the guy himself! 

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So lets see these 4 reasons why Men leave a good woman:

1. He has immature views of this relationship

As I already told you, today people rather end a relationship then trying to fix it and this maybe one of the reasons that lead to a sudden break up. A guy sometimes does not realise that all relationships require hard work (but rewarding too!) in order to succeed.

2. FEAR of Commitment

Some men are SIMPLY NOT ready for commitment! Simply Put. He might really want her and really is interested in her but once things start getting serious, he just backs away! 

3. He thinks that he can get BETTER

This is not news. Every guys nearly pass from this stage in thinking what the hell is he doing with the same woman when he can get better and a variety of women? 

It might be a simple flirtatious text from another woman in a way that his woman hasn't flirted in a while. Attention does make a man feel good and if left unnoticed in some cases it might even leads to a secret affair!

4. He thinks that he is NOT GOOD enough

Sometimes its not because a man does not realise a woman's worth when he breaks up with her....its the other way round: HE DOES realise her worth and that is why he breaks up the whole relationship. It hurts both ways but when a man leaves a woman for this reason he is mainly implying that he doesn't trust her judgement when it comes to choosing partners (since she chose him) 

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What I can say from all this, is that leaving a good woman will make a person realise two things: He either realise by time that she truly was a good woman and that he might be missing on a great successful relationship (until not too late by that time) or else he realise that he has changed in a way that this relationship cannot just fit him!

From my own experience, passing through this situation in life, has made me realise that men,yes, they do realise when they leave a good woman! 

Do you all agree? Looking forward to any opinions!

C.Armeni

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7 Tips to Make you sound SMARTER

                Habits that make you Sound SMARTER!


Very often, we make judgement on people based on how they speak, the way they say things and how they interact among other people.

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If you are one of those people who is conscious on how they are sounding like in front of new people, take a look at these 7 tips to help you sound smarter!  

But before I begin, Did you know that when someone speaks our brain goes directly into detective mode? It pieces together information such as education, intelligence and wealth and all this help us sound smarter than we actually are!

Back to the tips here are the following:

1. Work on Posture

Standing in a good position or simply sitting straight with a relaxed spine and not in a rigid posture, presents a self-assured image of yourself & Also puts you in a more confident state for speaking

2. Avoid Mindless Language 

Speaking in buzzwords, cliches or trying to impress people by using 'difficult' words without a correct sense of meaning, portrays a lack of original thoughts.

3. Speak Loudly but not Forcefully

Projecting your voice takes time and practice, but speaking loudly in a way that it reaches to people at the far end of the room is a great tip for Sounding SMARTER! It is  very IMPORTANT not to shout as it ruins this image and puts your listeners on the edge. 

4. Pay Close Attention to your Voice

By listen closely to your voice, you can use it as your weapon of force. Think about the voice that makes you... the force that you use, the ease of sounding confident at what you are saying to make it even more convincing to your fellow listeners

5. Avoid 'Vocal Fry' and any other Vocal Irritants

People are assessed primarily on how they sound. Any annoying vocal habits affect negatively on how a person is perceived. There are mainly 2 irritants - the uptalk - where statements are perceived as questions due to high rising intonation and the vocal fry - where one end words in a raspy growl. Both convey insecurity about oneself and negativity.

6. Don't be afraid of SILENCE

Sometimes when someone talks, it is easy to notice the silence that follows that most probably leads to embarrassment for the speaker but as Harold Pinter observed, "one way of looking at speech is to say that it is a constant stratagem to cover nakedness." Hence, pausing for a few seconds, emphasizes and adds thoughtfulness to your speech.

7. Don't Weigh in UNLESS You have something to ADD

If you are speaking about a certain topic that you only have basic knowledge of, then do not EVER EVER wander into a deep discussion as it will only result into you being portrayed as an ignorant person. If you find yourself into a similar situation, just try to steer the conversation into a familiar ground where you can speak at ease and share your knowledge!

To conclude, even though most of us cannot change our voices outright, we can change our habits to reach a sense of eloquence which in return transforms you into an intelligent, engaging speaker in the eyes of those in front of you! 

In this sense, its NOT about WHAT you say but its all about HOW YOU SAY IT!