How to Let Go of someone You LOVED with all your heart....?

         6 Ways to Let Go of Someone you Loved

Love is Amazing. Love can Ruin and Destroy You Completely. Love Heals. Love can make you whole again. Love is Hell. Love will Kill You.

Do these phrases sound a bit familiar? These are all different opinions on how one interprets love based on his/her own experiences. Most of us have all experienced a heartbreak in their lifetime. And ALL of us can relate how a bad experience in life (let alone in LOVE!) can scar us forever.

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I myself, when I was young, I passed through a very bad heartbreak that scarred me for life. He was my first love and believe me when I tell you I trusted him with my heart till he tore it in pieces. Everything seemed great at first until you start to see a change. Change is all it takes to ruin everything. It took me 4 WHOLE years to push myself to truly let go and when I thought It was completely impossible, looking back, I realise how possible it really was!


However its true that it sucks letting go of the person you dreamed of building your life with...all the future plans and dreams going with the wind...BUT I assure you that YES someone better will come along! 

Here are 6 ways to help you move on with your life:

1. Take all the TIME you need for yourself

They say Time heals all wounds? BS***!! Its true that by time most of the wounds will heal..but some of them will live with you forever.

From all this and all that I passed through, I suggest you give time, TIME. Time to slowly start healing you from the inside, time to numb the pain, time to slowly turn those memories into blurry images, time to slowly help you regain your confidence and self-esteem....JUST TIME.

TRUST ME...it gets easier :)!

2. List the reasons why you had to part ways

Have you ever really sat down and wrote the reasons why you and MR/MS X really ended up going to two separate ways? 

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Unfortunately the way it happens is when you start to think of them initially you will transport yourself back in time where it was all about love and passion which is very dangerous as you are trying to FORGET the person. But to every problem there is a solution so whenever you find yourself drifting to those feelings just counter them with a negative thought or memory. That way you will have more control on your mind!  

Eventually you will find it difficult to hate him/her but always reminding yourself of the reasons you called it quits will surely make your life easier!

3. Meet Someone NEW

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No, don't let your mind wander too far! I'm not telling you jump at the first opportunity to go out with someone as I am DEFINITELY SURE that they will be a rebound to you as it happened in my case. 

But letting yourself fall in love with bits and pieces of characters and personalities of people is one of the process of recovery.

When we see someone that attracts us - we fall in love in the most shallow form of love - the kind of love that you only have very few information of the person, but come to think of it..if you are already capable of doing this, then remind yourself that you are capable of loving again! 

4. Let yourself know why you completely NEED to let go of this person

As everything else, there are cases where broken relationships can be rekindled together, then again deep in your gut you know when its really over. And when its really OVER you need to realise that it MUST remain over as even if you try and save it, it will end the same way it ended up in the first place!!

Also its important to remain focused as if you let yourself go, the past, memories and feelings will catch up with you and you will end up doing something you will regret in the future!

5. Imagine your IDEAL person, and point out which areas your Mr/Ms. X fell short.

Try to answer this question to yourself... How can you find the ideal person when you do not even know what you really want? 

So I suggest that you sit down, imagine the person that you would likely like to meet and have a future with and start writing these points. Eventually then move on to outline the areas which your Mr/Ms X failed, so that you will have a clear idea of what you really want. From this, you will set yourself some guidelines for future suitors and help you face love from a new perspective!

6. Find Your ONE!

Sometimes when you experience heartbreak, you make a vow to yourself that you will NEVER fall in love again. But if there wasn't some hope within you then I can assure you that you wouldn't be reading these steps! 

But I PROMISE you that when you find your one, your past love will become so blurry that you will eventually move on from him/her in a way that they won't affect you anymore and are merely a thought in your mind.

You will NEVER forget your first love, but this new person will fill each and every space that the old person let out until every bit that related to your old love will diminish entirely. Yes, you may think sometimes about them especially if they were your first love but you won't be yearning for them as you did before.

In my opinion, we never stop loving them.. we only just learn to live without them in our lives. But as long as the yearning goes, the pain subsides and there is someone who fills your world completely with love and respect, what else could we need more?! :)

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Why Men Leave Women?! :(

             
             4 Reasons Why Men Leave Women

Ever found yourself in a relationship where everything seemed to be going perfectly well until that doomed day comes when he tells you that you're both better off as friends and he leaves you there asking yourself what the heck has just happened? 

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Its true that nowadays I personally feel that the true value of relationships have literally decreased. People today just prefer to have that 'one' person who is more than friends but less than lovers in order to feel secure in not getting hurt from that relationship.

Sometimes when a good woman gets dumped by a man, she is left heartbroken asking herself 'WHY?' did it happen? and also 'WHAT?' did I do wrong? People will tell this good woman that she is indeed a good person but if it was true then WHY did he leave?

What one must realise is that sometimes its not all about the woman herself but it has to do everything with the guy himself! 

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So lets see these 4 reasons why Men leave a good woman:

1. He has immature views of this relationship

As I already told you, today people rather end a relationship then trying to fix it and this maybe one of the reasons that lead to a sudden break up. A guy sometimes does not realise that all relationships require hard work (but rewarding too!) in order to succeed.

2. FEAR of Commitment

Some men are SIMPLY NOT ready for commitment! Simply Put. He might really want her and really is interested in her but once things start getting serious, he just backs away! 

3. He thinks that he can get BETTER

This is not news. Every guys nearly pass from this stage in thinking what the hell is he doing with the same woman when he can get better and a variety of women? 

It might be a simple flirtatious text from another woman in a way that his woman hasn't flirted in a while. Attention does make a man feel good and if left unnoticed in some cases it might even leads to a secret affair!

4. He thinks that he is NOT GOOD enough

Sometimes its not because a man does not realise a woman's worth when he breaks up with her....its the other way round: HE DOES realise her worth and that is why he breaks up the whole relationship. It hurts both ways but when a man leaves a woman for this reason he is mainly implying that he doesn't trust her judgement when it comes to choosing partners (since she chose him) 

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What I can say from all this, is that leaving a good woman will make a person realise two things: He either realise by time that she truly was a good woman and that he might be missing on a great successful relationship (until not too late by that time) or else he realise that he has changed in a way that this relationship cannot just fit him!

From my own experience, passing through this situation in life, has made me realise that men,yes, they do realise when they leave a good woman! 

Do you all agree? Looking forward to any opinions!

C.Armeni

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Do you know what a Heartbreak DOES to your Brain?!

                                         
   The Effects of a Heartbreak on your Brain!

Ever wondered how a heartbreak affects you?! I've been through a couple of them and believe me when I say that a heartbreak completely changes you. It changes your perspective on Life and LOVE, it changes your mentality

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about people.

You learn not to trust completely and you push away anyone who DARES to come close to you. You start hating love songs and curse every single couple that you pass by but deep down wishing you are instead of them. You curse that person that broke you, wishing that you can kill him with your own bare hands and you keep cursing his name until you end up with no voice. You hate him but at the same time you still love him and wish that nothing changed between you.

You spend sleepless nights or nights crying yourself to sleep. Those moments when you feel like your heart is exploding to pieces. Those moments when you gasp for breath as you feel like someone knocked you out completely. Those moments when you hear or see something that tears you apart even more. YES I Know how it feels!

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But actually, after all this, do you ever think how a heartbreak affects directly our brain? No, its not just you who feels that your life is over. Your brain is affected too! 

Everyone knows that losing the person you loved with your whole heart is absolutely devastating. Some of the effects are pretty understandable too! Take a look at what a heartbreak does to our brain below:

• Linked to a Higher rate of Depression

These Effects can last weeks, months and even YEARS!

• An area of our brain that deals with addiction and physical pain is ACTIVATED

That's right! Seeing a photo of your ex after a breakup, activates a part of the brain that is linked with physical pain and cocaine addiction. It can feel like drug withdrawal symptoms. No wonder heartbreaks are painful!!!

• Causes Anxiety, Headaches, and MORE!!

When you are in love, positive chemicals such as Dopamine and Oxytocin. On the other hand, heartbreak cause the following effects: Anxiety, Headaches, Nausea and there could be changes in weight - either weight loss or even weight gain in some cases.

• Can even cause the 'BROKEN HEART Syndrome'

The physical pain of it all doesn't stop here! It has been found that traumatic experiences can cause this syndrome. Stressful experiences like these make the body produce hormones which disrupts the heart's pumping ability.

• Cause Chest Pains and Symptoms of a HEART ATTACK!

Yes. A heartbreak may even cause you to feel the symptoms of a Heart attack!

To Sum it all up there is nothing more to add except the fact that love is like a drug to our body and experiencing a heartbreak is like experiencing Drug withdrawal. We must always keep in mind not to judge people as we may never know what they are passing through.

Have you ever experienced this? 

Laters,

C.Armeni

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